ramblings — 23122022
This year, I began to heed my advice, and it has made a world of difference. I started to take my advice, which makes me want to give more advice lol
I keep wondering how to turn these ramblings into visual content. sigh… is there an AI for that too? Does anyone know?
Anyways,
I grew up with the mindset that I didn’t want to offend the next person. This has always affected my interactions with people; I’ve always felt constrained to write between the lines... literally. Many Nigerians think I’m strange for writing in that manner, I mean not writing “on the lines.”
This mindset has made me feel boxed, even though I possess skills to put my hands in a diverse range of interests, but I've always struggled w being decisive; you know, focusing on one or a few top interests and making sense of it.
another lesson and a reminder
This year has been tough, but I’ve been blessed by the lessons and reminders it has provided. One of them is understanding people for who they are and treating them accordingly. You can imagine having the same expectations from everyone you meet, forgetting we are uniquely different from each other. I understand that having one template that you apply to everyone you meet is convenient, but life isn’t meant to be lived in black and white.
It is stress-free to live in an auto, making us more like zombies due to the ease of doing so. Living life with little awareness or concern for the unique qualities that someone who interests us possesses… is lowkey a red flag to me. The most enjoyable aspect of getting to know people is discovering how their values align with yours. Even if their values aren’t the same as yours, you can see the positive attributes they have and appreciate them for what they are, but you don’t see them as being a part of your future.
Have you ever felt like you cared more about someone than they do about themselves?
I feel like I care more about other people than I do about myself, and this year has reminded me to focus on myself and the things I can control. Thank you, Creamy, for reminding me to prioritize myself and my interests.
my type of lady
This year, I also discovered that I am drawn to certain types of women. I’ve always been drawn to natural-looking, earthy women. Such ladies were teNaturelleaturelle by a friend.
There’s something to be said for being understanding. It indirectly encourages the other person to form an (unhealthy) habit.
Portable
Portable remains my Nigerian musician of the year. I recently came across his comparison with Kodak Black, and I understand why. They are both preachers. I’m very pleased with the rebranding process that Portable is currently undergoing, which he attributes to a change in management. It’s fascinating to observe a musician’s development from emerging to established.
emotional maturity and the new year
We should sometimes intentionally treat bad people the same way they treat us, so they can understand the consequences of their actions. It might just help them behave better.
Other times, just ignore and LET GO, the new year is almost here. Happy Holidays.
